Friday, December 31, 2010

Wrapping up another year...

Well, I looked back at where I was a year ago...

My word for the year was OVERCOME.
I wanted to lose 30 lbs.

Here I am just about a year later, and I'm pretty sure I have more than 30 lbs to lose now. Hmmm... That didn't work like I'd hoped, did it?

I did overcome a lot of things this past year, like hormone issues, some scheduling / overcommitment issues, and some other things I can't think of at this particular moment. But when it comes to a lot of the areas I struggle with, I'm learning that overcoming isn't as big if it isn't accompanied by discipline. So this year my word for the year is...

DISCIPLINE

It's a word that's been on my heart and mind for a while now. And, I've been making progress toward it. Waking up, getting up, spending time in the Word, reading / listening to the scrolls, doing my 6 MIT each day. Of course, making progress is not the same as mastering, so I still have a LONG way to go. I'm hoping 2011 is the year of discipline.

I found a few definitions for discipline that I particularly like in light of choosing this word for 2011. They are:

1. activity, exercise, or a regimen that develops or improves a skill.
2. behavior in accord with rules of conduct; behavior and order maintained by training and control.
3. orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior

So, I suppose the question is... for definition #1, what is the skill I want to develop or improve? I've tried making it about the weight, and that obviously isn't working for me. So what do I REALLY want to improve? What behaviors and patterns of behavior do I want to see in my life?

When it comes to food, I find myself making poor choices, often as a result of unbalanced emotions. I buy things because they sound good (and are on sale! So of course, I have to buy 5 of them...) and then eat them because they're there. Really, I tend to eat things because they're there. So perhaps one skill I want to work on this year is discipline in my shopping habits.

1. DISCIPLINE in my shopping habits.

But how do I do that? Well, I suppose first off is by keeping and FOLLOWING a grocery list. And creating some rules. If it's not on the list, don't buy it. I can add it to the list when I get home if I want, but I have to wait until the next time I go to the store to buy it. I suppose another area in which I ought to discipline my shopping habits is to follow a budget.

Once I've got items in my house that are generally acceptable to eat (and not just the result of a buying binge), I need to ask myself why I am eating. Is it because I need to? Is it because I'm stressed? Is it because I'm craving something?

2. DISCIPLINE myself to think before I act.

This is going to be a hard one. I think thinking before I eat includes planning meals. I've been doing this, and it definitely helps, but only if I actually start dinner earlier in the day. If I wait until dinner time to start dinner I just snack on junk. So one rule I could implement is... Plan the meal before I eat it. Decide ahead of time what I am going to have for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Thinking my day through will help.

3. DISCIPLINE myself to enjoy the food I'm eating.

I think one of the reasons I eat as much as I do is that I am not actually thinking about and enjoying the food I'm eating. I'm thinking about other things, or watching TV, or trying to eat and do something else at the same time. If I actually sit down and enjoy the food I'm eating, perhaps I wouldn't want more when I was finished eating. Perhaps the code of conduct I ought to follow is... Enjoy what I've been given.

Okay. That gives me 3 things to strive for. Discipline in my shopping, thinking, and focus, especially where it concerns food.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Rebellion and Structure...

Why do I rebel against structure? This is a constant struggle for me and I find myself frustrated by it. I know that self-discipline and structure will help me achieve my goals, so why do I resist so much? It affects my every day... how much I get accomplished, how much sleep I get, how healthy I am, how well I parent... Everything! My day is full of resistance...

I resist getting up in the morning.
I resist reading my Bible.
I resist doing my daily coaching work.
I resist taking my pill.
I resist eating a healthy breakfast.
I resist taking a shower.
I resist emptying the dishwasher.
I resist doing a load of laundry.
I resist making my bed and teaching Eliana how to make hers.
I resist doing my work early in the day.
I resist exercising.
I resist cleaning the house.
I resist planning meals.
I resist eating a healthy lunch.
I resist making dinner.
I resist making business calls.
I resist loading the dishwasher.
I resist putting Eliana to bed.
I resist washing my face.
I resist picking out my clothes for the next day.
I resist going to bed at a decent time.

The truth is that with a little routine, a little structure, and a little self-discipline, my life would run a WHOLE lot smoother. And yet I can't seem to be able to do it. It can't be THAT hard, can it? What is my issue?

I have learned that my schedule has to be flexible. I don't get up at the same time every day, nor do I have the same schedule every day. So I don't expect myself to adhere to a strict timeline each day, but is it so hard to get things done early in the day so my house is not a mess and I am taken care of? What if I...

Woke up
Read my coaching reading
Read my Bible
Took my pill
Got up
Made my bed
Took a shower
Got ready
Started a load of laundry
Ate breakfast (a healthy breakfast)
Emptied the dishwasher
Moved laundry to the dryer
Started dinner (or at least got things thawing / crock pot / set out)
Ate lunch
Read my coaching reading
Read my Bible
Exercised
Worked
Spent time with Eliana
Made dinner
Cleaned up dinner and loaded the dishwasher
Made business calls
Put Eliana to bed
Washed my face
Put out my clothes for tomorrow
Got into bed
Read my coaching reading
Read my Bible
Went to sleep

Would that really be so difficult?

And what about what I am putting into my body? I have gotten into an awful habit of eating out fast food lately. I make poor choices at home. I don't plan ahead. I don't plan meals. I have not been eating well and it makes me feel sluggish and unattractive. What would happen if I...

Stopped watching TV?
Walked / Exercised 30 minutes a day?
Cut artificial sweetener out of my diet?
Cut white sugar out of my diet?
Ate more whole foods?
Ate more fruits and vegetables?
Took my vitamins?
Drank water?
Planned my meals?
Stopped eating impulsively?

Would I lose weight? Probably. Would I feel better? Definitely. So why don't I? Good question...

These are the things I'm pondering today.